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In reply to the discussion: High School’s Bold Decision to Outlaw School Dances [View all]LynneSin
(95,337 posts)93. Ok would you like for me to list the name of every single dance known to man?
Because you are discussing a dance that was never once mentioned in the the article or even the secondary link.
But if makes you feel happy I will google for the name of every dance known to mankind and we can have hypothethical arguments of how each of those dances should be handled in those situations. Because I don't want to upset you that I only read what was in the article and refused to do any more of these 'What-ifs' about things not in the article.
Now, please focus on the facts of the article and please do not stray, work with me here.
student behavior, particularly the sexual nature of the dancing, is becoming increasingly inappropriate, despite repeated warnings and redirection from the chaperones.
There are absolutely NO OTHER DANCES MENTIONED. But if you reply again about yet again hypothetical situation of what we should do if the question is this so called 2-inch rule which is not a part of the article then I will start asking you about every other dance I can think of so we can also debate those issues. There is no issue about the 2-inch rule that I am at this time aware of in this article but I do respect the fact that maybe tomorrow an updated article might come out and details change. (I'll worry about that when it comes). There was mention about two dance names - moves like twerking and other dirty dancing.. Those dances tend to NOT have 2-inches between the people dancing them but a more sexual nature dancing.
You've got this single track mind on an issue totally not related to the article and you won't let go. Why? I do not get it. What I see is a school that has a concern that honestly I think is valid. The dancing isn't 2-inches apart it is a few kids sexually grinding on the dance floor and other kids feel uncomfortable. For kids under 18 this is totally appropriate that they complain. The school offered a valid solution - open forum to discuss the issue in hopes to have school dances again. The school even said that dances not held on school property would not be affect since it's not their problem.
Until we are given more information stop reading extra into it. I know I was arguing that the 'uncomfortable' was that girls might be getting sexually harassed/rape and honestly, that was probably just as bad as your 'kids are getting too puritan at the damn dance'.
I think for me kids need to be kids. The sexual dancing, there is a place for that and at a dance filled with minors is not that place. And just so you know, my definition of sexual dancing is when there is excessive grinding of the pelvis/buttocks on one another no light of day between the parts. In a private home or night club with adults - if someone feels uncomfortable they need to leave.
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If a student is 'uncomfortable' seeing a same-sex couple kissing, should all kissing
kelly1mm
Dec 2014
#7
There's still plenty of dancing going on without actual bumping and grinding
TexasMommaWithAHat
Dec 2014
#21
yes there should be boundaries. That would be 'Is it legal?'. If legal, and you don't like it,
kelly1mm
Dec 2014
#30
So, it is not that they were offended that dictates why the dances were canceled (as the school
kelly1mm
Dec 2014
#42
If you don't give a crap about other peoples opinions then you probably are doing the message board
kelly1mm
Dec 2014
#60
It was about some being offended. If the system we are going to have is that something that is
kelly1mm
Dec 2014
#35
That goes into subjectivisim. Some would say bump-and-gring is offensive. Others would say
kelly1mm
Dec 2014
#47
Who defines overtly sexual? If a student thinks that slow dancing with less than 2 inces of
kelly1mm
Dec 2014
#48
So, if I am reading you correctly, once society 'progresses' to the point when what you are offended
kelly1mm
Dec 2014
#57
OK, I will conceed that point. However, let's consider a student who does not feel comfortable
kelly1mm
Dec 2014
#59
Some of the kids might not want to dance without 2 inces of separation or be bullied because they
kelly1mm
Dec 2014
#71
You know that bullying cannot be ducked and dodged. The potential for bullying is almost always
TheKentuckian
Dec 2014
#110
If you have to bring something back then the state is "officially canceled"
TheKentuckian
Dec 2014
#121
OK - I conceed the point. However, let's consider a student who feels uncomfortable with
kelly1mm
Dec 2014
#63
I know what twerking is. So, let's have our forum and let's assume that the kids themselves say no
kelly1mm
Dec 2014
#74
You need to share the article you are reading because you keep adding stuff not in the article
LynneSin
Dec 2014
#82
I am not reading any other articles. I am engaging in hypotheticals to try and
kelly1mm
Dec 2014
#84
Thank you for the reasoned response. And I am sorry if I was unable to communicate my thoughts
kelly1mm
Dec 2014
#86
Actually I did noting of the sort. I compared two people 'feeling uncomfortable'. One person felt
kelly1mm
Dec 2014
#98
As a society we make distinctions every day. For example, I don't believe in zero tolerance
pnwmom
Dec 2014
#99
I would TOTALLY agree! If kissing is allowed it is allowed for all. My trouble is
kelly1mm
Dec 2014
#119
I'm not about to hold judgement against this school because I do not have enough information.
LynneSin
Dec 2014
#19
Why not just tell dancing couples that they must leave room for the Holy Ghost? (nt)
Nye Bevan
Dec 2014
#38
What if you found out your daughter was at that dance being sexually harassed or even raped?
LynneSin
Dec 2014
#62
30+ years ago I attended high school dances where we "bear hug" slow danced, and, uh,
Arugula Latte
Dec 2014
#65
I really don't think anyone not in a high school setting NOW knows what it's like. I include myself,
WinkyDink
Dec 2014
#69
It is as old as time. Schools are never going to approve of having this kind of dancing at
liberal_at_heart
Dec 2014
#91
In a further development Principal Bishop announced that all kids must get off his lawn.
Warren Stupidity
Dec 2014
#109
I can see how an overabundance of sensitivity might lead to such a move.
True Blue Door
Dec 2014
#113
I don't have kids, so you're welcome to say I know nothing. That's probably true.
True Blue Door
Dec 2014
#118