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4. I've seen that. And I felt bad for her that her dad was not in her life.

Fri Mar 20, 2015, 06:10 PM

Mar 2015

Last edited Fri Mar 20, 2015, 08:07 PM - Edit history (1)

But that really had nothing to do with with her Mom her other Mom.

Her father very likely would have been absent from her life had her mother remained single after the divorce.

Her father very likely would have remained absent from her life had her mother gotten remarried to a man.

And she would also have likely had a father that was absent from her life even if her mother had gritted her teeth and stayed married to him "for the sake of the children."

Oh...she may have seen him in the house everyday. But he likely would have all the charm and all the appeal of an ugly, uncomfortable chair. An ugly, uncomfortable chair that demands to be fed on demand, cleaned up after, and for everyone to just shut the fuck up around it.

This poor kid needs to place blame on why she did not have a relationship with her father on her asshat of a father. She needs to stop blaming her mother or her other mother.

She needs to stop blaming gay marriage.

She needs to blame her father.

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Meet the daughter of two lesbians who's campaigning against same-sex marriage [View all] KamaAina Mar 2015 OP

It's always the mothers who take the brunt of their childrens hate! boston bean Mar 2015 #1

I took the brunt of reaction to a disappointing father. AtomicKitten Mar 2015 #15

One of my sisters gave my poor mother a hell of a time. boston bean Mar 2015 #16

I get how tragic that is. AtomicKitten Mar 2015 #17

I don't know why that happens with some... but it does... boston bean Mar 2015 #18

cheers AtomicKitten Mar 2015 #20

"Look At Me" Politicalboi Mar 2015 #2

Time for a new kids book. 'Heather hates her two mommies!' Erich Bloodaxe BSN Mar 2015 #3

I've seen that. And I felt bad for her that her dad was not in her life. alphafemale Mar 2015 #4

My granddaughters have two mommies and share the same dad.. who is gay and married 2banon Mar 2015 #10

And in her childhood gay marriage would not have existed anyway. alphafemale Mar 2015 #23

I'm wondering if she got "saved" vis a vis some sort of Christian Right church/org. 2banon Mar 2015 #36

With some Christian Right money thrown in. roody Mar 2015 #42

that would certainly follow. n/t 2banon Mar 2015 #53

Exactly LittleBlue Mar 2015 #45

Same-sex parents can be crappy parents just like opposite-sex parents. Brickbat Mar 2015 #5

The only problem she cites with her two moms is that neither was male. Marr Mar 2015 #9

At some point, same sex couples get to be as rotten as heteros AngryAmish Mar 2015 #12

Waaaa! As a child from a two gender household, I am against straight marriage!!! Zorra Mar 2015 #6

My parent's marriage sucked too! No more straight marriage. roody Mar 2015 #44

What an incredibly hurtful thing this must be for her parents. Marr Mar 2015 #7

The sarcasm is unwarranted. The correct response is to stress the "can". Donald Ian Rankin Mar 2015 #8

What screwed her up was not ... surrealAmerican Mar 2015 #11

It agree- she has abandonment issues which can happen in divorce in any type of 2nd marriage Johonny Mar 2015 #21

That doesn't quite tally with her account. Donald Ian Rankin Mar 2015 #22

It's really hard to make causal judgments, even about your own life. Unvanguard Mar 2015 #28

+1000 smirkymonkey Mar 2015 #38

Her experience is hers alone. She cannot speak for other children of same-sex couples. Maedhros Mar 2015 #13

Indeed. Inkfreak Mar 2015 #26

being a good parent has absolutely nothing to do with the parent's respective reproductive equipment Warren DeMontague Mar 2015 #14

They don't necessarily need parents either cloudywing Mar 2015 #49

I don't understand what that comment has to do with anything ismnotwasm Mar 2015 #58

That's such an absurd statement Warren DeMontague Mar 2015 #59

It's clear that this woman's "religion"... joeybee12 Mar 2015 #19

Heh, yeah. Sure. Lancero Mar 2015 #31

Keep telling yourself that joeybee12 Mar 2015 #35

As I've said, I don't share her opinions. Lancero Mar 2015 #37

Curious if there's a conversion story here (to some variety of conservative Christianity) Unvanguard Mar 2015 #24

$$$ DeSwiss Mar 2015 #25

Sometimes kids grow up and turn into right-wing assholes davidn3600 Mar 2015 #27

My Father DUgosh Mar 2015 #29

where does she say she hates her 2 mommies? oh, it doesn't and she doesn't. magical thyme Mar 2015 #30

+1 Rex Mar 2015 #41

This message was self-deleted by its author Snotcicles Mar 2015 #32

She says she 'ached for a dad.' Her problem wasn't/isn't lesbian parents. Shrike47 Mar 2015 #33

She has that Michelle Bachman/Calista Grinch treestar Mar 2015 #34

Well gee, she ended up having her own kid...so what were the same-sex parenting Rex Mar 2015 #39

These are separable issues. lumberjack_jeff Mar 2015 #40

She's been brainwashed by the RWing lie machine. Rex Mar 2015 #43

Must be applying for a job as a Fox News correspondent. Initech Mar 2015 #46

Maybe she's right ProudToBeBlueInRhody Mar 2015 #47

I think her issue may be less about having lesbian mothers and more about not being able to know pnwmom Mar 2015 #48

I think her issue is entirely about having lesbian mothers Unvanguard Mar 2015 #50

I didn't see anything in this article about a religious point of view. pnwmom Mar 2015 #51

That's because mentioning it would give away the game. Unvanguard Mar 2015 #52

It turns out you guessed correctly. I found more info in a British tabloid --not my favorite source pnwmom Mar 2015 #54

Thanks, yeah, that confirms it. n/t Unvanguard Mar 2015 #57

Look closer... PassingFair Mar 2015 #55

That wasn't in the article at the OP, but I just posted something like this from the Daily Mail. pnwmom Mar 2015 #56